We all have beliefs, most of which have been programmed into us from a very young age and most of us don’t question them. There are beliefs that cannot be changed, and that is just the way it is and we have to accept it. But there are lots of beliefs that we hold that may not be relevant now.
Here is a true story which will illustrate just how easily we are ‘programmed’
A young couple got married, and when it came to cooking the Sunday roast, the young wife picked up her joint of meat, broke the bone in it and folded it before putting it in the roasting tin. Her new husband asked her why she had done this. She replied ‘That’s the way my mother always does it’.
A few weeks later, the young couple were invited to her parents’ house for Sunday lunch, and the young husband was intrigued as he watched his mother-in-law pick up her joint of meat, break the bone and fold it before putting it in the roasting tin. He asked his mother-in-law why she did this. She replied ‘That’s the way my mother always does it’.
A month or so later, the young couple went to have Sunday lunch with her Grandmother. The young husband was still intrigued by the breaking of the bone before putting the joint in the roasting tin, and so he mentioned to his wife’s Grandmother how his wife and his mother-in-law both broke the bone in the joint of meat before putting in the roasting tin, and that his mother-in-law learned it from the Grandmother, and his wife learned it from his mother-in-law. He asked if she could shed any light on this for him.
The Grandmother replied ‘Do they still do that? I used to do it because my roasting tin was very small and unless I broke the bone, I couldn’t fit the joint in it’.
That is how simple it is to be ‘programmed’.
I have a belief that there is good in everybody. This belief comes from parents who told me this many years ago and therefore I have believed it for all this time. I have not had any reason to challenge this belief before and therefore it has just sat there in my mind.
I have challenged this belief, and I now believe that there is good in most people but not everybody. I discovered something about a person I know that was unpleasant, nauseating and which shook me to the core. That belief is now buried forever, and the new belief has replaced it.
10 beliefs I hold:
- I believe there is a higher being, but I am not sure what or who it is.
- I believe that working hard reaps great rewards.
- I believe that honesty is always the best policy.
- I believe that marriage is an equal partnership and that to be best friends as well is vital.
- I believe I have masses to offer to other people to help them become the very best version of themselves.
- I believe I made some huge mistakes whilst bringing up my children.
- I believe that friends are attracted to me rather than me going out to find them.
- I believe in general humans think they are superior to other creatures.
- I believe change can be brought to this planet by drip feeding positive thoughts.
- I believe in the power of the Universe
I have challenged the belief that there is good in everybody because it has been proved to me that this is just not the case. Therefore this belief is easy to change and will remain changed unless it can be disproved to me that there is good in most people.
I had a belief that my intuition (inner self, spirit, gut instinct) is infallible. It has shown me that it is not. My belief now is that I can trust my intuition up to a limit, but that consideration will have to be made in the future to ensure my gut instinct is not destroyed and continues to protect me.
What are your beliefs? Are there any that need looking at or adjusting? Take a look and you might just be surprised.
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