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Ageing gracefully

It seems generally we tend to associate youth with beauty, but in fact beauty transcends every age. Just as a deciduous tree is stunning in all its stages, from its full leafy green in the summer to its naked skeleton during winter, and everything in between, human beings are beautiful throughout their life spans. As we cultivate our life, our beauty becomes as much about what we are creating and doing as it is about our appearance.

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We are learning from the early years of our lives and experiencing as much as we possibly can. We move through the world absorbing like sponges the ideas of other people and the world. Like a tree in spring, we are waking up to the world. In this phase of life, our physical strength, youth and beauty help open doors and attract attention. Gradually, we begin to use the information we have gathered to form ideas and opinions of our own. As we cultivate our philosophy about life, our beauty becomes as much about what we are saying, doing and creating as it is about our appearance. Like a tree in summer, we become full, expressive, beautiful and productive.

When the time comes for us to let go of the creations of our middle lives, we are like a tree in autumn dropping leaves, releasing our past attachments and preparing for a new phase of growth. The children move on, and careers shift or end. The lines on our faces, the stretch marks and the grey hairs are beautiful testaments to the fullness of our experience. In the winter of our lives, we become stripped down to our essence like a tree. We may become more radiant than ever at this stage because our inner light shines brighter through our eyes as time passes. Beauty at this age comes from within, from the very core of our being, our essence. This essence is a reminder that there is nothing to fear in growing older and there is a kind of beauty that comes only after one has spent many years on this earth.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to change your thoughts, help you learn that you are special and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Respond or react

I am sure we have all had those moments when a conversation suddenly shifts and becomes hard. It maybe that someone’s words sting or a tone has changed, and you feel it in your body. Your chest tightens, your heart races, and it may feel like you can’t quite find your voice. Sometimes we lash out, other times we retreat into silence. After the encounter is over, and we have given it some thought, we wish we had been able to stay steady and speak from a place of kindness and clarity instead of fear. It’s such a tender human experience, and it happens to us all.

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The truth is there’s always a small space,  a pause, between what happens and how we choose to respond. Remember that in that pause lives our freedom. If we can take even one gentle breath before we speak, we give ourselves the chance to soften, to notice what’s really happening inside, and to choose words that build bridges instead of walls. That little moment of presence can open the door to greater honesty, understanding, and connection.

And here is something beautiful, with practice, we can get better at this. Little by little, we can learn to bring more calm, courage, and compassion into all our conversations. Even the most difficult moments can become opportunities to grow closer, heal, and share more of who we truly are. Every word becomes a chance to bring more love into the world, and that’s a gift we can give, again and again.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to change your thoughts, help you learn that you are special and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Stress – what is it?

Have you set yourself goals that you want to achieve?  If so, are they actually achievable?  And more importantly are they really necessary? There is stress around goals.  You make them mean something about your worth and value and this creates pressure as you strive to achieve them.  And if you do achieve them, will there still be something missing? So, let’s imagine you want to test out how stressed you are.

If you feel you have to make it happen you are putting a huge responsibility on your shoulders.  You think you are on your own.  You work hard at gaining more knowledge, you work harder and keep a very tight control.  You make it all about your personal commitment and discipline.  You want to prove yourself to yourself and to everyone else or you think you will lose everything.  We force ourselves out of our comfort zones feeling stress and fear all the way along.

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Or you could leave it all up to the Universe.  This means we sit and wait for the conditions of our environment or in our mind to be perfect.  This is very unlikely to happen.  So we get stressed whilst we wait. Or you can use your free will and make decisions from your innate wisdom and stay on course when your thoughts are stressful.  It is your thoughts that cause the stress, since stress itself does not exist until we create it.

So relax into what it is you want to achieve, live in the moment, don’t think about the future as it hasn’t happened yet, do what you feel is right and your stress levels will reduce and you may even find that you have no need to set goals at all.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to change your thoughts, help you learn that you are special and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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New start

There are times in our lives that lend themselves to starting something new. They could be the beginning of the year, leaving school, leaving a job, or moving house. These all are times that turn our minds to fresh starts. Their advantage is that they bring with them the energy of that event, creating a tide of change around them that we can ride on . But we can choose to start anew at any time. At any moment, we can decide that a bad day or a relationship that got  off on the wrong foot needs a relaunch. It is a mental shift that allows us to clean the slate and approach anything with fresh eyes. We can make that choice at any time.

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Starting new is most powerful when we focus our attention on what we are choosing to create. Giving all of our attention to the unwanted aspects of our lives allows what we resist to persist. We need to remember to leave enough room in the process of new beginnings to be kind to ourselves. It takes time to become accustomed to anything new, no matter how much we like it. There is no need to get down on ourselves if we don’t reach our new goals instantly. Instead, we should acknowledge the forward motion, knowing that with each choice we learn, grow, and move in a positive direction.

Making the choice to start anew has its own energy. The forward momentum creates a sort of vacuum behind it, pulling all you need toward you to help you continue moving in your chosen direction. Once the journey has begun, it may take unexpected turns, but it never really ends. Like cycles in nature, there are periods of obvious growth and periods of dormancy that signal a time of waiting for the right moment to burst forth. Each time we choose to start anew we dedicate ourselves to becoming the best we are able to be.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, help you learn that you are special and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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How to survive Valentine’s Day as a single person

Take advantage of you and really look after yourself on this day. Turn the focus of your attention to you. Buy yourself something special, something you will really love and appreciate. It maybe something that you wouldn’t usually think of buying for yourself, but on this occasion it feels right to do it. Here are some more suggestions for you to feel special on this loving day:

  • treat yourself to a day being pampered at the spa. Or
  • treat yourself to a special meal and enjoy it in the comfort of your own home. It can be a take away delivered to your door.  Use your favourite crockery, buy a bottle of wine and enjoy your chosen feast. Or
  • watch your favourite film or read a good book. Or
  • How about you and some of your best friends getting together to watch a few of the worst romantic comedy films you can find.  Have a fun evening with people you love to be with and who love to be with you.
  • Make a Valentine’s Day resolution to love yourself.  Resolve to take some evening classes or to go on that trip you have been promising yourself.  Resolve to try new restaurants or to try new recipes.  Make a resolution that you will make a start towards the dreams you know you want to achieve.
  • If you have children why not make the day special for them as well as you.  Buy some little gifts – chocolates, stuffed toys, model cars etc. – and make a present hunt game with clues, and they can fun trying to find the gifts and you will have fun watching them.
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Whatever it is you choose to do, whether it is on your own, with friends or with your children, make sure it is fun for you.

Do not:

  • Find a stranger to spend the night with.  You will regret it in the morning and make it worse for yourself when the next Valentine’s Day comes around.
  • Watch tv programmes filled with loves stories.
  • Get all dressed up at work as your colleagues will jump to conclusions and make your life a misery all day.
  • Sit at home being miserable and feeling sorry for yourself because you don’t have someone to share this sill day with.
  • Beat yourself up for feeling miserable and lonely.

A great thing to do would be to wait until February 15th and then treat yourself to a heart-shaped box of chocolates at half price, or buy some flowers for yourself for half price.

Remember, it is just one day.  It will all be over in the morning.

Plan your life around yourself and learn to really love yourself again.  This will not only be fun and interesting, but loving yourself is the basis of beginning your new life as the new, confident you.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, help you learn that you are special and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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A point in your life

There comes a point in your life when you realise:

Who matters,

Who never did,

Who won’t anymore…

And who always will.

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So, don’t worry about people from your past,

there’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, help you build on your realisations and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Blaming Others

When we understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we could feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behaviour. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behaviour.

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Perhaps the problem lies with the action of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward with the feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, understand how forgiveness works and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Gaslighting is very subtle

Gaslighting can feel so subtle in the beginning. A passing comment that makes you doubt yourself. A quiet dismissal of your feelings. A disagreement where you walk away wondering if you really did remember incorrectly. That’s the tricky thing about gaslighting it often starts small, almost invisible, until one day you realise you’re questioning your own reality. For many, gaslighting is a trait of a narcissistic relationship, a way of another person keeping you off balance and unsure of yourself.

If you’ve experienced this, understand that it’s not your fault and you’re not imagining things. Gaslighting is intended to confuse you, but the fact that you’re noticing it now is a sign of your strength. When you can name these patterns for what they are, you can begin to reclaim your confidence, rebuild your sense of self, and take meaningful steps toward healthier relationships.

Healing from the effects of gaslighting and narcissistic behaviour is possible u and it’s a deeply empowering journey. You deserve to feel grounded in your own truth again, to set boundaries that honour you, and to trust your inner knowing. There’s a brighter, more peaceful chapter ahead of you, and every small step you take brings you closer to the love and respect you know you have always deserved.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Always listen to your gut

Your gut is so much more than a place where food is digested. Often called your “second brain,” it carries an intricate web of neurons and a hidden wisdom. It is sensitive, intuitive, and deeply attuned. It notices when you’re worried, when something or someone doesn’t seem right, when life feels too fast, or when something you’ve eaten isn’t nourishing you. Sometimes it tries to get your attention with bloat or inflammation, not to punish you, but to whisper: Something inside needs attention and love right now.

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Just as you pay attention to the words of a trusted friend, you can learn to tune in to the signals of the gut. Sometimes it asks for gentler foods, more rest, or replenishing hydration. Other times, it longs for a break from chronic stress and overload, or for you to honour your emotions instead of pushing them down. When you respond with compassion, a message of safety emanates through the body and nervous system.

With that sense of safety, the gut begins to soften, to settle, and to heal. What follows is more than physical relief. You rediscover a quiet freedom within, a return to balance, and ease. This kind of healing ripples outward, uplifting your confidence, nurturing your well-being, and helping you to look and feel your best. At its heart, it is a remembering, within you lives a wise and sensitive guide, always ready to lead you back to wholeness.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to live in the moment and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Things to remember

The past cannot be changed. Opinions don’t define your reality.

Everybody’s journey is different. Things will always get better with time.

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Judegements are a confession of character. Overthinking will lead to sadness.

Happiness is found within. Positive thoughts create positive things.

Smiles are contagious. Kindness is free.

You only fail if you quit. What goes around comes around.

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