The most important relationship you have in your life is with yourself. Even though you are the only one who is present at every moment of your life – from conception onward – this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This is possibly because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even instilling beliefs that you should set aside your own needs for the needs of others.
Until you know yourself, however, you cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support your mutual growth toward your highest potential. By allowing yourself to be comfortable with being alone, you can become the person with whom you want to have a relationship.
It would appear that at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, whilst living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially and emotionally without depending on a spouse for survival in any of these areas. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners and neighbours. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a partner then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created as well as the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.
When we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we often find that there are times where being alone nourishes us while we find other times in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory.
Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognisable roles or not.
Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship -the one with our true selves.
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