There are a million reasons why it is advisable to stick with your married name after divorce. There are also a million reasons why you could change your surname after divorce.
If you have children, it can make it easier when dealing with schools to keep the same surname as the children have. Although, in this day and age, it is very common for children to have different surnames from their parents. For instance, when two families merge there will be Mr & Mrs X and their 6 children. 3 of the children have come from Mrs X’s previous marriage, and 3 of the children have come from Mr X’s previous marriage. So there will be Mr & Mrs X with children X and children Y.
It can cause some hassle with paperwork, but other than that, it is not a problem.
When there are no children involved, it may be that you may want to change your surname. You can choose to revert to your maiden name, if you like that name, or you can choose another surname entirely. Changing your name can be done relatively easily via deed poll. You will have to provide several forms of documentation to prove you are who you say you are, and that you not going to commit fraud. But once that is done, and the fee paid of course, you can go ahead. You can find out more information from their website.
You could completely reinvent yourself if you chose to. Pick a name that you have always loved and that you think will suit you. If you are not sure, then try a few out for size. Write down the names you think of, say them out loud, see if they fit. If they don’t then think of some more until you find one you really like.
There will be banks, credit cards etc., to inform, but once that is all done you can live happily with your new name.
Some people want to revert to their maiden name, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with doing that either. It is a matter of personal choice.
There are, of course those, who didn’t change their surname when they got married, and therefore nothing needs to change now, unless they want it to…………….
Whatever decision you make, be sure it is the right one for you. Don’t allow other people to influence you either way. It is your life, your name and it is you who has to live with it.
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Creedence – Confidence for You
International Confidence Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author