Competing with yourself

There are needs that often drive us to compete with others and they tend to be straightforward. We have been have shaped us to pit ourselves against our peers. The needs and desires that inspire us to compete with ourselves by years of both societal influences and evolution.  However, these are entirely personal and thus far more complex. A need to outdo our earlier best efforts – to confirm that we have grown as individuals – can motivate us to strive to reach new heights of accomplishment. We are capable of using our past achievements as a foundation from which we venture confidently into the unknown. Yet if this drive to compete with our former selves is the result of low self-worth or a need to prove ourselves to others, even glowing successes can feel disheartening. Examining why we compete with ourselves enables us to positively identify those contests that will enrich our existence.

There are many reasons why we strive to outdo ourselves. When we are ambitious to grow and we are driven to set and meet our own expectations. We don’t look to external experiences of winning and losing to define our sense of self-worth. Rather, we are our own judge, monitoring our progress and gauging how successful we have become. Though we seek the thrill of accomplishment tirelessly, we do so out of a legitimate need to improve the world or to pave the way for those who will follow in our footsteps. Be careful, though, that your competitiveness is not the result of an unconscious need to show others that you are capable of meeting and then exceeding their standards.

Think too about successful efforts that would be deemed more than good enough when evaluated from an external perspective which may not satisfy our inner judge, who can drive us ruthlessly. So that we attain balance, we have to learn the art of patience even as we strive to achieve our highest vision of who we are. When we feel drained, tense, or unhappy as we pursue our goals, it may be that we are pushing ourselves for the wrong reasons. Our enthusiasm for our endeavours will return as soon as we remember that authentic evolution is a matter not of winning but of taking pride in our progress at any pace.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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Maintaining our energy and confidence levels

The people with whom we have the most contact and hang around with will have either a positive or negative effect on our levels of self-esteem and confidence.  We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around.

How do they make you feel?

Yes, they make me feel the same!  The positive thinking people can put zest into a boring atmosphere and can fill the room with ‘can do’ vibes that has a knock on effect onto everyone else. They are a joy to be around and bring our energy levels up and increase our self confidence.

We also know of those people who drain the energy from a room!

It is their perception that they never had the opportunities, they are always putting people down, they don’t like others to be successful, they are jealous and are negative thinkers – need I go on?

These people have the power to drain our energy and bring us down to their level, a million miles away from the level that WE want to be operating on. But they only have that power if we allow them to.

Some family members can be a lot like this as well,  we can always choose our friends, we can never choose your relatives! We can choose what are prepared to listen to though.

So what can we do to make sure that the people who we hang around with empower and support what we stand for, rather than bring us down all of the time?

  • We have the power to choose who we hang around with. Ideally we want happy, vibrant and positive people. If we hang around with those types of people, the negative ones will disappear as they won’t be able to cope.
  •  If we have good friends who are negative and yet we still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how it feels  – if they are a true friend they will respect this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity.
  • The same can be said with family. Our more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. They have learned their behaviours from their parents and grandparents. Appreciate where they have come from and, as above, acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity.
  • Remember, that nothing has meaning in our lives except the meaning that we give it.

We are in control of our positivity and negativity, and nobody can take that away from us.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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Embracing New Information

We are living in an information age.  We can easily be overwhelmed by the constant influx of scientific studies, breaking news, coming to us over the radio waves, via the tv and landing in our in-boxes. No sooner have we decided what to eat or how to think about the universe than a new study or book comes out confounding our well-researched opinion. After a while, we may be tempted to dismiss or ignore new information in the interest of stabilising our point of view, and this is understandable. Rather than closing down, we might try instead to remain open by allowing our intuition to guide us.



For example, contradictory studies concerning foods considered to be good for you and foods that are considered to be bad for you are plentiful. At a certain point, though, we can feel for ourselves whether coffee or tomatoes are good for us or not. The answer is of course different for each of us, and this is something that a scientific study can’t take into account. All we can do is take in the information and process it through our own systems of understanding. In the end, only we can decide what information, ideas, and concepts we will integrate. Remaining open allows us to continually change and shift by checking in with ourselves as we learn new information. It keeps us flexible and alert, and while it can feel a bit like being thrown off balance all the time, this openness is essential to the process of growth and expansion.

Perhaps the key is realising that we are not going to finally get to some stable place of having it all figured out. Throughout our lives we will go through the processes of opening to new information, integrating it, and stabilising our worldview. No sooner will we have reached some kind of stability than it will be time to open again to new information, which is inherently destabilising. If we can imagine ourselves as surfers riding the incoming waves of information and inspiration, always open and willing to attune ourselves to the next shift, we will see how blessed we are to have this opportunity to play on the waves and, most of all, to enjoy the ride.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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My approach to coaching

I am one of the top coaches in my field. You can trust my considerable knowledge, expertise and experience.  I have hundreds of hours of coaching experience. It is also vitally important to me that you understand that I know exactly where you are coming from.  I have been there. I have had absolutely no confidence in myself at all and have learned how to turn that around. That is why I am so passionate about helping you to be more confident.

I have many years of both national and international experience working with a range of people from 10 year olds to senior citizens, both male and female. This is complemented with of over 25 years of working in both private and public sector organisations and small businesses.

Coaching qualifications from Newcastle College, The Coaching Academy and Dawn Breslin Academy, Jamie Smart, Susan Jeffers along with NLP qualifications from INLPTA enable me to communicate effectively with all my clients so they can bring about the personal changes that they want.

In addition I have worked with Dawn Breslin, regular GMTV coach and international confidence coach, and with Susan Jeffers, author of ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’, and Jamie Smart author and Clarity coach to establish my expertise so people who want to improve their self-esteem and build their confidence can feel confident that I will deliver.  

Me with Dawn Breslin Me with Susan Jeffers Jamie Smart

My coaching programmes are tailored to individual clients, but generally include, but are not limited to:

  • Taking stock of the individual’s current situation and clarifying exactly where they are now.
  • Identifying realistic options.
  • Acknowledging potential stumbling blocks and how to overcome them.
  • Raising and discussing anxieties and fears (real or perceived)
  • Feeling positive about taking up the challenge.
  • Prioritising short, medium and long term goals and strategies.
  • Creating and executing a plan of action to move forward.

I am empathetic to all my clients and completely non-judgemental and totally supportive in my approach to coaching.  All my clients have benefited from my coaching and some have made massive changes to their lives.  Some have made small changes which have ultimately resulted in big changes later on.  You don’t have to make a huge change in your life to make a great difference.

I am passionate about coaching and I am on a mission to inspire everyone to find and live their passions – to be their authentic, true self. I feel that my job is to be responsive, flexible and enabling, to draw out the star in you. In particular, I am skilled in rebuilding self-esteem and confidence, enabling you to develop to your full potential. To do all this requires a holistic, lively approach to personal and professional development, from the delivery of the training and coaching through to on-going support. And I’m interested in your results – no ifs, no buts.

Expect to be challenged, to re-learn old things in new ways but, most of all, expect to change your life.

I am a published author and have published ‘7 Steps to Rebuilding Confidence in Yourself‘.  And  My second book, ‘What you believe creates your reality. The guide to creating the reality you want‘, is also published.  

Additionally I am one of the co-authors of ‘One Page Wisdom’ (Page 55) published by Life Skills Australia in November 2009. I also write regularly for the Huffington Post.

I have appeared on Solent TV discussing how life coaching will change your life.  I have been interviewed on BBC Radio Solent by Mike Powell and have been interviewed on two occasions by Coach Erwin de Grave on Radio Coaching discussing how confidence coaching is beneficial and also where coaching will be in 2020 and how it will have evolved. 

I have presented teleseminars for Business for Coaches on Thought Field Therapy, confidence building, the subconscious mind and also how to enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single person. 

All of us grow most when we are prepared to keep learning.  My professional practice is formed by a range of trainings and qualifications that make up my role as an expert coach.

Contact me today to book your first coaching session. 

Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

Website:       http://www.maggiecurrie.co.uk

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When our world appears to fall apart

There are occasions when our whole world seems to be falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to let go of and what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes our relationships crumble and sometimes it’s our physical environment. At other times, we can’t put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls have fallen down around us and we are standing with nothing to lean on, exposed and vulnerable. These occasions are the times in our lives when we have the opportunity to see where we have established our sense of identity, safety, and well-being. And while it is perfectly natural and part of our process to locate our sense of self in externals, any time those external factors shift, we have an opportunity to rediscover and move closer to our core, which is the only truly safe place to call home.

The core of our being is not affected by changing circumstance or subject to the cycles of change that govern physical reality. It is as steady and consistent as the sun, which is why the great mystics and mystical poets often reference the sun in their odes to the self. Like the sun, there are times when our core seems to be inaccessible to us, but this is just a misperception. We know that when the sun goes behind a cloud or sets for the night, it has not disappeared but is simply temporarily out of sight. In the same way, we can trust that our inner core is always shining brightly, even when we cannot quite see it.

We can cling to this core when things around us are falling apart, knowing that an inexhaustible light shines from within ourselves. Times of external darkness can be a great gift in that they provide an opportunity to remember this inner light that shines regardless of the circumstances of our lives. When our external lives begin to come back together, we are able to lean a bit more lightly on the structures we used to call home, knowing more clearly than ever that our true home is that bright sun shining in our core.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

Website:       http://www.maggiecurrie.co.uk

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Things We Don’t Want to Do

I am sure we have all had the experience of tackling some dreaded task only to come out the other side filled with a new sense of confidence and strength and feeling invigorated. It is interesting that most of the time when we do that dreaded task, we come out on the other side changed and often wondering what we were so worried about or why it took us so long. It might spur us on to begin to look for other tasks we’ve been avoiding so that we can feel that same heady mix of excitement and completion.

Whether we avoid something because we perceive that it bores us or scares us, or because we think it will force a change we’re not ready for, putting it off creates obstacles for us. On the other hand, facing the task at hand, no matter how onerous, creates flow in our lives and allows us to grow. The relief is palpable when we emerge on the other side knowing that we did something even though it was hard or we didn’t want to do it. Interestingly, when we cling to our comfort zone, never addressing the things we don’t want to face, we cut ourselves off from flow and growth.

I am sure we all have at least one thing in our life that never seems to get done. Try bringing that task to the top of your list and promise yourself that you will do it as soon as possible, this act that could liberate a tremendous amount of energy in your life. Whatever it is, you can allow yourself to be fuelled by the promise of the feelings of exhilaration and confidence that will be the natural result of doing it.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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Being Gentle with yourself

There are times when our lives are filled with what seems to be constant change and growth, at those times it is vital to remember that we need to be gentle with ourselves. Since it can be easy to use our energy to keep up with the momentum of our lives, we may not be aware of the fact that we are much more likely to run ourselves down. When things seem to be moving quickly, it is especially essential that we make a point to slow down and be gentle with ourselves.

It might be difficult to notice what is happening to you for you may be so caught up in the whirlwind of your life that you lose sight of the direction in which things are heading. Being gentle with yourself doesn’t mean that you don’t accomplish things. Instead it means that you honour yourself on an ongoing basis and take care of the needs of your body.

This means different things to different people. For instance, it could mean having a session with a therapist; eating better, or getting extra sleep. Putting your energy into yourself in this way helps create space for a more positive, loving, and accepting view of your life. By setting the intention to do so, you will be more cognisant of your energy levels on a daily basis and more able to replenish them as needed.

The more we are all able to treat our bodies with gentleness, the more tenderness and compassion we will call forth into our lives. Learning to understand and pay attention to what our self needs will in turn allow us to fill our lives with unlimited loving and healing energy and to truly take care of the things that mean the most to us.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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Reading for Pleasure

Every book has the potential to arouse patterns of thought that might otherwise have lain dormant. The pleasure we derive from the written word is unique in that we must labour for it. Other forms of art provide us with stimulus and ask nothing more than our emotional response. Reading is an active pastime that requires an investment of emotion as well as our concentration and imagination. The words we read are merely a starting point for a process that takes place largely within our minds and hearts.


There are very few activities as comforting, relaxing and healthy as being engrossed in the pages of a good piece of fiction or nonfiction. Curling up with a book and a cup of tea is one of the simplest ways we can remove ourselves from the confines of reality in order to immerse ourselves in the drama and intrigue of the unfamiliar. The pleasure of transcending reality is only one aspect of the reading experience, however. Each time we read for enjoyment, whether we prefer the fantastic nature of fiction, the empathy awakened within us by memoir, or the instructive passion of nonfiction, we create entire landscapes in our mind’s eye. The books we choose provide us with the inspiration we need to accomplish such a feat, but it is our own creative reserves that empower us to use our imaginations for this unique and beautiful purpose.

The stories you lose yourself in can lead you on paths of discovery that take you out of your own life and help you see that existence can unfold in an infinite number of ways. You can learn so much from the characters and mentors who guide you from page to page. Your emotions are awakened each time you read, allowing you to become vessels of the passion that pours forth from line after line of print. Ultimately, the books you absorb will become a part of who you are, providing you with a rich and thrilling world within that you can revisit anytime you wish by simply closing your eyes. If you haven’t read a book for pleasure lately, try and allow yourself the time – you deserve it.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

Website:       http://www.maggiecurrie.co.uk

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Can you enjoy Valentine’s Day as a single person – or away from your loved one?

There is so much emphasis on love and marriage leading up to Valentine’s Day and on the day itself.  There are adverts everywhere and shops are full of gifts, treats and cards all specifically for this occasion. But not everyone buys into this sentiment.  And there is no reason why everyone should.   So how can you survive and keep your sanity if you can’t or don’t want to buy into it? There are so many ways to make sure you enjoy yourself on your own.

You are probably feeling that you have nobody to rely on but yourself,  and on this ‘special day’ my suggestion is to turn the focus of your attention to you.  Buy yourself something special, something you will love.  Maybe treat yourself to a day pampering yourself with doing your nails, styling your hair, giving yourself a facial, or treat yourself to a special meal and enjoy it at home.  You don’t have to cook it yourself, order it by phone and have it delivered to your door.  Use your favourite crockery, buy a bottle of wine and just enjoy being you, the lovely you that you know you are.

Maybe you could get a few of the worst romantic comedy films you can find and watch them and make fun of all those dreadful films.  Have a fun evening.

If you have children, maybe make the day special for them, as well as you.  Buy them some little gifts – maybe chocolate, stuffed toys, model cars etc.  You could make a present hunt with clues so they have fun trying to find the little gifts.  Whatever it is you choose, make sure it is fun. 

Another way to look at Valentine’s Day is to make some new resolutions, as most New Year’s resolutions were made 6 weeks ago. Make a Valentine’s Day resolution to love yourself, resolve to take some evening classes, resolve to go on that trip you have always promised yourself, make a start towards the dreams you know you want to achieve.  Resolve to try out new recipes. Resolve to date yourself, plan life around yourself and learn to love yourself again.  This will not only be fun and interesting but loving yourself is the basis of being the confident you.

In the short-term be prepared for personal questions from friends and co-workers about your plans for your  Valentine’s Day alone.  Have an answer even if it is ‘no comment’.

Don’t get dressed up as that invites questions. Avoid tv programmes filled with loves stories.

Remember it is just one day.  Shut your door, eat what you want, read a good book, watch your favourite film, do what is fun for you.  It will all be over in the morning.

If you would like, you could wait until February 15th and buy yourself a heart-shaped box of chocolates at half the price. Buy yourself some flowers at half price too.

Whatever you do, don’t sit at home being miserable and sorry for yourself because you don’t have a date for this silly day. If you do sit at home and feel sorry yourself don’t beat yourself up about it.  Remember, it is only one day, and there is nothing to be ashamed of in not participating in Valentine’s Day.  It is your prerogative, be true to YOU.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

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How you see yourself

How you see yourself begins with a combination of all of the qualities and attributes of other people that you most admire.  Your ‘self-ideal’ is a description of the person you would very much like to be, if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to.  In fact, everything that you do on a day-to-day basis is affected by your comparing your activities with these ideal qualities.  Not only that, you constantly strive to behave consistently with them. Successful people are usually very clear about being excellent in every part of their lives. Unsuccessful people frequently have fuzzy ideals.  

When you set higher and more challenging goals, your self-ideal improves and crystallises.  When you set goals for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live, your self-ideal rises and becomes a greater guiding and motivating force in your life. Improvements in your self-ideal begin in your imagination where there are no limits except the ones that you create and accept. Be careful of the limits you set for yourself.  Are they in your best interest? Could you stretch those limits?  Do you have a vision of the very best person you could possibly become? How would you behave each day if you already were that person?  Make a picture in your mind of how you would look and stand, how you would appear to other people? Make that picture as bright and colourful as you can.  Hear what you hear, see what you see, feel what you feel.  Make it brighter and step into that picture.  Add smells and textures if you can.  Really be the person you are envisioning.

There are more things you can do immediately to put your ideas into action. Dream big dreams. Set big, exciting, challenging goals for yourself.  Allow yourself to imagine a wonderful life ahead. Step outside of your comfort zone.  Make sure the goals you set are achievable by you, or you will become very disappointed if you fail to achieve them. Think about how you would act if you were an outstanding person in every way.  Create that picture in your mind.  Then, practice being this person. You will immediately notice a difference in your behaviour.  Not only that, other people will notice too.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please get in touch.

I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie

Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING

Website:       http://www.maggiecurrie.co.uk

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