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Blaming Others

When we understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we could feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behaviour. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behaviour.

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Perhaps the problem lies with the action of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward with the feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, understand how forgiveness works and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Always listen to your gut

Your gut is so much more than a place where food is digested. Often called your “second brain,” it carries an intricate web of neurons and a hidden wisdom. It is sensitive, intuitive, and deeply attuned. It notices when you’re worried, when something or someone doesn’t seem right, when life feels too fast, or when something you’ve eaten isn’t nourishing you. Sometimes it tries to get your attention with bloat or inflammation, not to punish you, but to whisper: Something inside needs attention and love right now.

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Just as you pay attention to the words of a trusted friend, you can learn to tune in to the signals of the gut. Sometimes it asks for gentler foods, more rest, or replenishing hydration. Other times, it longs for a break from chronic stress and overload, or for you to honour your emotions instead of pushing them down. When you respond with compassion, a message of safety emanates through the body and nervous system.

With that sense of safety, the gut begins to soften, to settle, and to heal. What follows is more than physical relief. You rediscover a quiet freedom within, a return to balance, and ease. This kind of healing ripples outward, uplifting your confidence, nurturing your well-being, and helping you to look and feel your best. At its heart, it is a remembering, within you lives a wise and sensitive guide, always ready to lead you back to wholeness.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to live in the moment and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Let them

Let them call you selfish. Protecting your peace is vital.

Let them think you are quiet. Not everyone deserves to hear your words.

Let them roll their eyes. Your happiness is not up for debate.

Let them judge your choices. You are the one living with those choices.

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Let them walk in and out. Consistency is their responsibility, it is not yours.

Let them call you different. It means you are not blending into the crowd.

Let them think you are too much. You are simply not for them.

Let them mock your boundaries. You built them for protection, not for their approval.

Let them talk behind your back. That is where they belong.

Let them underestimate your strength. Storms create warriors, not whispers.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to ‘let them’ and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Confidence sapping friends and colleagues

The people with whom you have the most contact and hang around will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.  We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around. How do they make you feel? Yes, they make you feel the same!  They can put zest into a boring atmosphere and can fill the room with positive, can do vibes that has a knock on effect onto everyone else.

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We also know of those people who could moan for England! They never had the opportunities, they are always putting people down, they don’t like others to be successful, they are jealous and are negative thinkers. These people drain your energy and bring you down to their level, a million miles away from the level that YOU want to be operating on . Family members can be a lot like this as well, but you can always choose your friends, you can’t choose your relatives! So what should you do to make sure that the people who you hang around with empower and support what you stand for rather than bring you down all of the time?

You have the power to choose who you hang around with. Ideally you want happy, vibrant and positive people.  If you have good friends who are negative and yet you still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how you feel – if they are a true friend they will respect you for this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity. The same can be said with family. Your more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. Appreciate where they have come from and as in number 2 above, elicit and select the information that filters through to your brain. Remember, that nothing has meaning in life except the meaning that you give it.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to create your own boundaries so you will rebuild confidence in yourself.

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Using my ‘outside’ voice

Everyone has their own internal filtering process to help us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Often that choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Although sometimes the choice is made based on our perceived expectations of the other person.

 I believe that my best chance of getting what I need is to communicate by converting my inner voice to my outside voice.

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This may seem unnecessary sometimes, especially when I think the other person has the same information I am working with, but I have to remember they also have their own inner voice, evaluating what they hear in light of their own issues and needs. With so much to consider and sift through, I think I am truly better off if I communicate precisely.  Not only does doing this minimise the chance for misinterpretation, but voicing my thoughts is an act of creation. I convert thought and imagination to sound, releasing it from my mind into the outside world. This carries energy and intention with it, making my thoughts, wishes and even dreams come true. 

When we have the courage to speak our minds and use our voice to state what we really want, we take a bold step in making that happen. By removing fear of what others may think and expectation of what others should understand, we free ourselves and our thoughts and let loose our desires into the world.

 Next time you become aware that you have a choice about how to communicate, you can choose to use your outside voice and watch its creative power at work.

 Do you have experience of holding onto your inner voice and then regretting it?  Do you have a story to tell about letting it all out? I would love to hear from you.

Want to coach with me? I will help you get unstuck and teach you to be the VIP in your life.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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I love my job

Speaking with one of my clients yesterday and they realised just how far they had come since working with me.

At first they had no idea how talented they were, how intelligent they were and had absolutely no self confidence.

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Today they are selling their products worldwide and locally, they are planning more projects whilst still working on current objectives at the same time.

I am so proud of my client and how they have progressed over the past year or so. From being almost afraid to speak to having a definite opinion.

Well done xx

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Feeling unmotivated?

When you are feeling unmotivated ask ‘who do I want to be in this moment’?

Not later – not when you feel better, but right now. 

Even the smallest action toward that is enough.

You don’t have to feel ready to begin.

Just begin.

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If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Being happy for other people

It isn’t always easy to be the kind of person who is happy for others when they experience success or a cause for celebration in their lives. Sometimes powerful, dark feelings and resentment come up at times when decorum dictates we should be feeling the opposite. Instead of reaching out and celebrating our loved one, we may feel the rising up of our own pain. This pain may appear because we feel jealous of our friend for having something we don’t. It may appear because our friend’s success will lead to us losing them in some way. And it may appear for reasons we don’t yet understand. The important thing is not to brush it under the rug, but to take it seriously and look at it; suppressing it will only make it worse. At the same time, we need to be sure to find a way to congratulate our friends and celebrate their successes as if they were our own.

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The struggle with being happy for others often presents itself early in life. If a child wants a toy and another child has it, the child will try to get it or will break down in tears. Those primal feelings are still present in most of us, and we have to acknowledge them when they arise. At the same time, it is when we care enough for someone to let go of what we want for ourselves that we grow as people. It can be a difficult dance to find ourselves suspended between wanting the toy and throwing a party for our friend who got the toy. Yet, it is in throwing the party that we share in the joy and, to some extent, the toy rather than cutting ourselves out of it.

Extending ourselves to celebrate the happiness of others requires a generosity of spirit that we sometimes find only in the process of doing it. So when your best friend moves to somewhere hot and balmy with the person you had a crush on, tend to your broken heart but throw them a going away party too.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Offerings of your day

When we have good days, we tend to go over the details later, enjoying them a second and third time as we feel the joy of our good fortune. When we have bad days, we tend to pore over the details of our misfortunes not enjoying them. However, we can reframe those bad days by spending some time before going to bed each night to review the gifts we received that day. Regardless of our evaluation of the day, good, bad, mediocre, we can recall the many blessings that were present. This practice transforms our consciousness as it reveals the fullness at the heart of our lives.

Some days it’s easy to recount the gifts we’ve received; on other days, we have to look harder for the offerings of the day, but once we do, we will find there are always quite a few. There is always something to be grateful for. We can keep it simple and be grateful for the fact that we have a roof over our head, nature, food, and our health. Once we have fully experienced these gifts, we can move outward to the gifts that may require a little more thought such as the gifts of forgiveness, tolerance and acceptance that we may have learned that day. We can also always be grateful for the people in our lives who support us, no matter how bad our day may have been.

Just reviewing the many positive offerings in our lives provides a context for our difficulties that puts them in proper perspective, but we can also make an effort to see the gifts even in adverse circumstances. This can be challenging and may require some practice before it feels authentic, but we have all had the experience of a disappointment or loss leading to a surprising gain. Just remembering this and trusting the give and take of life can help us to remember that sometimes the best gifts of all are the ones we don’t recognise right away. In addition, the lessons we learn in the face of adversity are offerings in their own right, allowing us to count patience, wisdom, and fortitude alongside our other gifts of the day.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Clinging to the core

There are times when it seems that our whole world is falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes it is our relationships that crumble and sometimes it’s our physical environment. At other times, we can’t really put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls have fallen down around us and we are standing with nothing to lean on, exposed and vulnerable. These are the times in our lives when we are given an opportunity to see where we have established our sense of identity, safety, and well-being. And while it is perfectly natural and part of our process to locate our sense of self in externals, any time those external factors shift, we have an opportunity to rediscover and move closer to our core, which is the only truly safe place to call home.

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The core of our being is not affected by the shifting winds of circumstance or subject to the cycles of change that govern physical reality. It is as steady and consistent as the sun, which is why the great mystics and mystical poets often reference the sun in their poems to the self. Like the sun, there are times when our core seems to be inaccessible to us, but this is just a misperception. We know that when the sun goes behind a cloud or sets for the night, it has not disappeared but is simply temporarily out of sight. In the same way, we can trust that our inner core is always shining brightly, even when we cannot quite see it.

We can cling to this core when things around us are falling apart, knowing that an inexhaustible light shines from within ourselves. Times of external darkness can be a great gift in that they provide an opportunity to remember this inner light that shines regardless of the circumstances of our lives. When our external lives begin to come back together, we are then able to lean a bit more lightly on the structures we used to call home, knowing more clearly than ever that our true home is that bright sun shining in our core.

If this has resonated with you in any way, and you would like help to making your life enhancing decisions, get in touch hello@maggiecurrie.co.uk. Work with me, improve your confidence and and see how much more you can achieve. Relearn how to live your life in the front row, re-take control of your own life. 

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