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Blaming Others

When we understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we could feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behaviour. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behaviour.

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Perhaps the problem lies with the action of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward with the feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, understand how forgiveness works and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Things to remember

The past cannot be changed. Opinions don’t define your reality.

Everybody’s journey is different. Things will always get better with time.

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Judegements are a confession of character. Overthinking will lead to sadness.

Happiness is found within. Positive thoughts create positive things.

Smiles are contagious. Kindness is free.

You only fail if you quit. What goes around comes around.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to live in the moment and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Stop overthinking

Overthinking creates problems that don’t exist. It will steal your happiness, making everyhing seem worse that it actually is. Take a deep breath in. Exhale and have faith. What is meant to be will be.

When you stop overthinking, that’s when things gent to fall into place. Even if it’s not clear right now, everything will be okay.

Embrace the uncertainty, as it makes life special. Remember, life is not a problem to be solved, it is a rality to be experienced. Allow yourself to be present, to feel and to grow.

By letting go of overthinking you make space for joy, peace and fulfilment to enter your life.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to stop overthinking and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Give yourself permission to simply ‘be’.

The elation that we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a big breakthrough can sometimes be met with a period of downtime afterward. During this period of transition, we may feel unsure and not know where to turn next. I know that during this period of downtime, we can begin to wonder what our life is about, what our purpose is. These feelings are very common and we all feel them from time to time. Often, we feel best when we are working on a project or vigorously pursuing a goal. But there is nothing inherently wrong with spending a day, a week or even a month, simply existing and not having a plan. Just being. I know that I have found sometimes the quiet lull between ideas, projects, and goals can make life appear empty. I know there are some people who, after accomplishing one objective, want to move immediately on to the next.

 However, we are all different.  When you find that your next step is unclear, it is quite natural to feel frustrated, or disconnected or even a mild depression. To help calm what can be distressing thoughts, learn to accept that you will continue to grow as an individual whether you are striving for a specific objective or not. Just be and use all the time you need to think about what you have recently gone through and leisurely contemplate what you wish to do next.

You may also find that in simply being and going through the motions of everyday life, you reconnect with your priorities in a very organic, unforced way. I have found that this transition time is different all the time. It can be a period of reflection or a period of adjustment where new values based on recent changes can be integrated. Just because you have temporarily lost sight of a final destination, doesn’t mean you should assume that you have lost your drive. Where you are going next will become apparent at the right time for you.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Using my ‘outside’ voice

Everyone has their own internal filtering process to help us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Often that choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Although sometimes the choice is made based on our perceived expectations of the other person.

 I believe that my best chance of getting what I need is to communicate by converting my inner voice to my outside voice.

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This may seem unnecessary sometimes, especially when I think the other person has the same information I am working with, but I have to remember they also have their own inner voice, evaluating what they hear in light of their own issues and needs. With so much to consider and sift through, I think I am truly better off if I communicate precisely.  Not only does doing this minimise the chance for misinterpretation, but voicing my thoughts is an act of creation. I convert thought and imagination to sound, releasing it from my mind into the outside world. This carries energy and intention with it, making my thoughts, wishes and even dreams come true. 

When we have the courage to speak our minds and use our voice to state what we really want, we take a bold step in making that happen. By removing fear of what others may think and expectation of what others should understand, we free ourselves and our thoughts and let loose our desires into the world.

 Next time you become aware that you have a choice about how to communicate, you can choose to use your outside voice and watch its creative power at work.

 Do you have experience of holding onto your inner voice and then regretting it?  Do you have a story to tell about letting it all out? I would love to hear from you.

Want to coach with me? I will help you get unstuck and teach you to be the VIP in your life.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Where is your ‘Safe Place’

I was thinking today about where a ‘safe’ place to be is for me.  I am not talking about a physical place, but somewhere in my mind I can go to relax, think, mentally re-charge and just be.  A place where my emotions are calm and all the negative stuff in the world is banished and there are no energy draining people to affect my life. And it came to me, my own parallel universe. I can create this in my imagination and build a picture that is so vivid and inviting for me.

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I am coming to the conclusion that my parallel universe will be a tranquil island with silver sands surrounded by blue, clear water.  In the water dolphins are playing.  The temperature will be ideal for me, the grass lush and green. There is a waterfall making a pleasant whooshing noise and there are brightly coloured birds fluttering around and playing with the butterflies and dragonflies.

That is the basis of my parallel universe and every time I go there I will see if something else needs to be added, or someone depending on what I am thinking about or which problem I am endeavouring to solve.  It may be that something needs to be taken away and put back at a later date.

Where is your ‘safe place’? Imagine it, make it as bright and colourful as you can.  Add textures, sounds, trees, animals.  Visit any time you like and just be.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Love your work

You always have a choice but you forget that you have it. Do you remember the energy and enthusiasm you had on the first day of your first job? You consciously chose to do the work you had gladly accepted to do. But then you gradually fell asleep to the choice you made, and the day became “I have to” go to work, instead of “I want to” go to work. You forgot to see all the opportunities which come with work – opportunities like learning, nourishing and being nourished by others, developing new relationships, expanding your personal capacity. Instead you decided it was just something that you had to do to ‘get the money’.

This is why most people are sleep-walking through their lives, and they don’t know it. The solution, choose your work every day, put the energy of love into your relationships…every day, even if you don’t particularly like your job or the people around you. And you’ll be amazed at how your life transforms. When you choose to put love into what you do, the universe will move heaven and hell to let you do what you love.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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The 4 R’s of emotional regulation.

Recognise. Check in with yourself. Take a moment to notice what emotions are running the show right now. Are you feeling stressed, frustrated or anxious?

Relax. Take a breath. Use a quick relaxation technique like deep brathing to calm you body and mind. This helps you feel more in control.

Reframe. Change your perspective. Instead of jumping to conclusions, ask yourself what’s another way to look at this? Or what can I learn from this? 

Respond. Act with intention. Now that you’re relaxed and thinking clearly, take mindful action instead of reacting right away.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Stop dragging the weight of the past

When we hold onto regret it is like dragging the weight of the past with us.  We find that It drains our energy, leaving less available for life in the present because we are constantly feeding an old issue. This attachment can cause illness in the same way watering a dead plant creates decay. We know that something new and beautiful can grow in its place if we prepare the soil and plant the right seeds. We also know that we create our lives from our thoughts, so dwelling on the past may actually recreate a situation in our lives where we are forced to make that choice again and again. We can choose to move on right now by applying what we have learned to the present and perhaps even sharing with others, transforming the energy into something that is constructive and creative for ourselves and others.

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We find that forgiveness is the soothing balm that can heal regret. When we sit quietly, we can imagine discussing the issue with the self of our past and offering our forgiveness for that choice. We can ask ourselves for forgiveness for being locked in that space of judgment for so long. We also may want to ask forgiveness from anyone else who may have been affected. By replaying the event in our minds, we can choose a new ending using all that we now know. Imagine that you have actually gone back into the past and made this change, and then say goodbye to it. Release your former self with a hug and bring forgiveness and love back with you to the present. Since we are usually our harshest critics, it is amazing how powerfully healing it can be to offer ourselves love.

Keeping our minds and our energy fully in the present allows us to fuel our physical and emotional healing and well-being today. This action frees our energy to create the dreams we dream for the future. By taking responsibility and action in the present, we can release our hold on the past.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Southern Enterprise Awards: Most Empowering Transformation Coach 2021

Southern Enterprise Awards: Transformational Coach of the Year 2022

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Using our toolbox of unique tools

Every craftsperson has a toolbox full of tools and a number of techniques to help them bring inspiration into mind. In the same way, throughout our lives, we have discovered our own life tools and techniques, the ways and means that have helped us create our lives up to this point. Sometimes we forget about the tools and skills we’ve acquired, and we wonder why we aren’t moving forward. At times like these, it might just be a matter of remembering what we already know, and rediscovering the tools we already have at our disposal.

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In the process of becoming who we are and creating our lives, we have all gone through the experience of being inspired to do something and then finding the tools we needed to do it. If we look back, we may be able to remember that we used, for example, the tool of writing every day in order to clarify our intentions. We may also have used the tools of ritual, meditation, or visualisation to make something happen. In addition, we may have been fuelled by a new idea about how the universe works, which is what gave us the inspiration to use these tools.

In order for ideas to be powerful, they must be imbued with the energy of our engagement with them, and in order for tools to be effective they must be put to use. This sounds obvious, but often we fall into the habit of thinking we are engaging with ideas and using tools by virtue of the fact that we are reading about them, or listening to other people talk about them. In truth, using our tools is a very personal action, one we must take on behalf of ourselves. Like artists, we are each unique and no two of us will receive the same inspiration, nor will we bring it to life in the same two ways. To discover the truth of our own vision, we must take action by remembering our tools and putting them to use.

If this has resonated with you in any way, and you would like to start utilising your toolbox and gaining more inspiration, get in touch hello@maggiecurrie.co.uk. Work with me, improve your confidence and and see how much more you can achieve. Relearn how to live your life in the front row, re-take control of your own life. 

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