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Blaming Others

When we understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we could feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relationships, the same question arises. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t feel responsible for. We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behaviour. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behaviour.

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Perhaps the problem lies with the action of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward with the feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us. Ultimately, we cannot insist that someone else take responsibility for their actions; only they can make that choice when they are ready. In the meantime, if we want to move forward with our lives instead of waiting around for something that may or may not happen, we begin to see the wisdom of taking the situation into our own hands.

We do this by forgiving our parents, even if they have not asked for our forgiveness, so that we can be free. We end the abusive relationship with our partner, who may never admit to any wrongdoing, because we are willing to take responsibility for how we are treated. In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, understand how forgiveness works and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Uplifting Showers

Water falling from the sky has been interpreted in many different ways by numerous cultures. In various areas of the world, rain was viewed as a nourishing gift, given by well-pleased deities. Rain has also been viewed as a symbol of emotional cleansing and representing the unending union between earth and sky. Today, rain is often seen as an annoyance, something to be borne doggedly while attending to one’s usual duties. But the arrival of one or more rainy days can also be interpreted as a signal to slow down and contemplate life. When Mother Nature darkens the sky and causes drizzle to fall, freshly opened buds close and many animals settle into their nests for a snooze. We can honour rainy days by following the example put forth by the flora and fauna around us. Even if we must venture out into a shower, we can still slow down and appreciate our connection to nature.

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A rainy day spent indoors can be wonderfully uplifting. As the rain pours down, fill your home with light, sound, and comfort so that you can fully appreciate the loveliness of being snug and dry during a downpour. Storms literally change the energy in the air, and you may feel driven to follow suit by lighting candles or singing. You may even feel compelled to talk to each room in your home in order to express your gratitude for the protection they give you. If, however, you feel claustrophobic rather than calm because you cannot venture outdoors, you can clear away negative energy by getting rid of clutter, sweeping away dust, and freshening your up spaces. The happier you are in your home, the more beautiful and wondrous a simple rain shower will seem.

A sheltered spot like a covered porch, sunroom, or bay window can provide you with a wonderful vantage point from which to watch the raindrops as they make their descent to earth. And the pitter-patter of rain on a rooftop or car window can even be a therapeutic and soothing sound, one that reminds us that while the unforeseen will always be a part of our lives, we should never forget that nearly every cloud that comes into our lives will have a silver lining.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence, appreciate the changes in seasons and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Are You Holding on to Things You ‘Should’ Do?

A lot of people carry around with them a large amount of “baggage” or “clutter” in their minds. When I say this I mean that they are still holding onto things that they say they ‘should’ do, but they really don’t need to. The ‘coulds’ and ‘shoulds’ in your life that hold you back – you want to let go, but you don’t. An example is worrying about whether they should have bought that handbag they liked even though they couldn’t afford it. Worrying about it and continuing to carry around that clutter doesn’t do anyone any good. This is very common with people going through or in the aftermath of divorce. You are not alone, I have done it myself.

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Are you carrying around with you a lot of emotional attention that you really could be doing without instead of focusing on something more productive? Are you like this? If you are, I bet it has a negative influence on your confidence and self esteem. Take a look at your life and get rid of this baggage by asking yourself some questions and by completing the following exercise. In effect, what you are doing is making certain tasks “complete”, drawing a line under them and moving on. Another term for this is “psychological completion” or just “completion”.

The following questions can be taken at one sitting or over a number of hours/days. By writing the answers down they become more formal. Get to it and watch your confidence soar!

• Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with at home

• Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with at work

• Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with in any other areas of your life

Are you surprised at what you are putting up with in your life?

Make an action plan of how to reduce this number! Take action!

• Do you need to clear the air with anyone? If so, just do it! Life is too short!

• Did you ever say that you were going to call someone or keep in touch with someone yet have done nothing about it? If yes, call them or send an email to them today.

Let go of as many coulds, woulds, shoulds, maybes, oughts as you can. Take action!

By completing these exercises you will be able to focus more on the here, the now and the future. You will now be able to let go of some of the things that have been taking up your valuable attention units – those things that knock your self esteem.

Do you want to remain stuck and miserable? If your answer is no, take action.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

Get in touch today. Email hello@maggiecurrie.co.uk

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Gaslighting is very subtle

Gaslighting can feel so subtle in the beginning. A passing comment that makes you doubt yourself. A quiet dismissal of your feelings. A disagreement where you walk away wondering if you really did remember incorrectly. That’s the tricky thing about gaslighting it often starts small, almost invisible, until one day you realise you’re questioning your own reality. For many, gaslighting is a trait of a narcissistic relationship, a way of another person keeping you off balance and unsure of yourself.

If you’ve experienced this, understand that it’s not your fault and you’re not imagining things. Gaslighting is intended to confuse you, but the fact that you’re noticing it now is a sign of your strength. When you can name these patterns for what they are, you can begin to reclaim your confidence, rebuild your sense of self, and take meaningful steps toward healthier relationships.

Healing from the effects of gaslighting and narcissistic behaviour is possible u and it’s a deeply empowering journey. You deserve to feel grounded in your own truth again, to set boundaries that honour you, and to trust your inner knowing. There’s a brighter, more peaceful chapter ahead of you, and every small step you take brings you closer to the love and respect you know you have always deserved.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to rebuild your self confidence and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Always listen to your gut

Your gut is so much more than a place where food is digested. Often called your “second brain,” it carries an intricate web of neurons and a hidden wisdom. It is sensitive, intuitive, and deeply attuned. It notices when you’re worried, when something or someone doesn’t seem right, when life feels too fast, or when something you’ve eaten isn’t nourishing you. Sometimes it tries to get your attention with bloat or inflammation, not to punish you, but to whisper: Something inside needs attention and love right now.

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Just as you pay attention to the words of a trusted friend, you can learn to tune in to the signals of the gut. Sometimes it asks for gentler foods, more rest, or replenishing hydration. Other times, it longs for a break from chronic stress and overload, or for you to honour your emotions instead of pushing them down. When you respond with compassion, a message of safety emanates through the body and nervous system.

With that sense of safety, the gut begins to soften, to settle, and to heal. What follows is more than physical relief. You rediscover a quiet freedom within, a return to balance, and ease. This kind of healing ripples outward, uplifting your confidence, nurturing your well-being, and helping you to look and feel your best. At its heart, it is a remembering, within you lives a wise and sensitive guide, always ready to lead you back to wholeness.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to learn to live in the moment and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Things to remember

The past cannot be changed. Opinions don’t define your reality.

Everybody’s journey is different. Things will always get better with time.

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Judegements are a confession of character. Overthinking will lead to sadness.

Happiness is found within. Positive thoughts create positive things.

Smiles are contagious. Kindness is free.

You only fail if you quit. What goes around comes around.

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Many people don’t understand the importance of working with a qualified, experienced and expert coach to help rebuild their confidence in themselves. It is just as important as a mechanic for a garage or a chef for a restaurant.

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Southern Enterprise Awards: Transformational Coach of the Year 2022

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Let them

Let them call you selfish. Protecting your peace is vital.

Let them think you are quiet. Not everyone deserves to hear your words.

Let them roll their eyes. Your happiness is not up for debate.

Let them judge your choices. You are the one living with those choices.

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Let them walk in and out. Consistency is their responsibility, it is not yours.

Let them call you different. It means you are not blending into the crowd.

Let them think you are too much. You are simply not for them.

Let them mock your boundaries. You built them for protection, not for their approval.

Let them talk behind your back. That is where they belong.

Let them underestimate your strength. Storms create warriors, not whispers.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to ‘let them’ and change the way you are thinking about what you think about yourself.

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Southern Enterprise Awards: Most Empowering Transformation Coach 2021

Southern Enterprise Awards: Transformational Coach of the Year 2022

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Remember the lighter side

Often when we talk about fun or doing things just for fun, we talk about it in a dismissive way as if fun is not that important. We tend to value hard work and seriousness, and we forget to pay our respects to the equally important, light side of laughter and silliness. This is ironic because we all know the feeling of euphoria that follows a good burst of laughter, and how it can leave us less stressed. We are far more likely to walk down the street smiling and open after we’ve had a good laugh, and this tends to catch on, inspiring smiles from the people we pass who then positively influence everyone they encounter. Witnessing this kind of chain reaction, or ripple effect, makes us think that having fun might be one of our most powerful tools for changing the world.

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Laughter is good medicine, and we all have this medicine available to us whenever we recall a funny story or act in a silly way. We magnify the effects of this medicine when we share it with the people in our lives. If we are lucky, they will have something funny to share with us as well, and the life-loving sound of laughter will continue to roll out of our mouths and into the world.

Of course, it is also important to allow ourselves to be serious and to honour that side of ourselves so that we stay balanced. After a great deal of merriment, it can actually be a pleasure to settle down and focus on work, or even take some time for introspection until our next round of fun begins.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to create your own boundaries so you will rebuild confidence in yourself and learn to have fun.

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Conscious Choices

Everything in our lives is chosen either consciously or unconsciously. All your choices yesterday, last year, ten years ago, have resulted in where you are today, what you do today, what you have around you today. This is hard for many people to swallow. They prefer to see life as fateful and therefore avoid responsibility for their own destiny.

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There are many random, uncontrollable and unpredictable events, but our destiny is not defined by these events – it is defined by how we respond to them. And our responsibility – ability to respond – is always in our own hands.

If we respond with desire we will likely be disappointed at some future stage when we do not get what we want. If we respond with expectation we will again, at some stage, be let down. If we respond with annoyance or frustration we only disempower ourselves. Desire, expectation and getting upset are never the best choices. Until you can see this, you will not choose how you live. Life, circumstances and events will likely choose for you!

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to create your own boundaries so you will rebuild confidence in yourself and make the right choices for you.

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Being fearful by conditioning

We all have fears.  Some of them are passed down from our parents, and some we learn for ourselves.  Parents can condition us unwittingly and unintentionally. We all learn by example. If we really examine our fears about something, we can notice that the fear we have is not based on our own experience at all. We can trace that fear back to its source.  We may find that one of our parents handed it down to us. For example, your mother or father may have had an intense fear of lack of money, stemming from their own life experiences. If that fear was not resolved by the time you came into the picture, chances are you inherited it. Meanwhile, you may have no actual experience of lacking money, so being fearful doesn’t make sense, and it may even block you from doing certain things you want to do. Of course your parents were only trying to protect you, and that most of the errors in judgment they made were made with the best intentions. Now may be the time to release this fear symbolically.

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Obviously you cannot resolve someone else’s fear for them, but you can decide to let go of it on your own behalf. Whether your parents are still alive or not, I believe it is best to do this in a symbolic way, using visualisation. One simple visualisation I use, is to imagine you are sitting in a huge comfy chair, and in front of you is a blank wall.  On that wall you will write the name of the fear in great big letters. Now, as you think about releasing this fear, and how you will feel after it has been released, begin to wipe away each letter of the fear one by one.  As you do that and simultaneously think about releasing the fear, that fear is dissolved, for good.  Then you can sit back in your comfy chair and be free of that fear. The more we do this deep inner work with our fears, the better we will be able to parent our own children without burdening them with fears that don’t belong to them. Some of us will do as much of this work as we can before we become parents, while others will be working on this even as our children become adults. Some of us will not begin this work until they retire.  Whenever we undertake it, the effects will be felt, because once we break our ties to the fears of the past, our children’s ties to those fears are greatly weakened, so it’s important to remember that it’s never too late.

Allowing yourself to release your fears is one step in the right direction to lessening the burden on yourself, and will help you to live a more balanced life.  Ask yourself this – Why am I living a life with fears that take up so much of my energy?  Why don’t I release some of these fears so that I can begin to live my life in my own way? Notice how good you feel after you have released some of those inherited fears.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to release those fears so you can create a less fearful life for yourself.

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Southern Enterprise Awards: Transformational Coach of the Year 2022

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