Let them walk in and out. Consistency is their responsibility, it is not yours.
Let them call you different. It means you are not blending into the crowd.
Let them think you are too much. You are simply not for them.
Let them mock your boundaries. You built them for protection, not for their approval.
Let them talk behind your back. That is where they belong.
Let them underestimate your strength. Storms create warriors, not whispers.
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We all have fears. Some of them are passed down from our parents, and some we learn for ourselves. Parents can condition us unwittingly and unintentionally. We all learn by example. If we really examine our fears about something, we can notice that the fear we have is not based on our own experience at all. We can trace that fear back to its source. We may find that one of our parents handed it down to us. For example, your mother or father may have had an intense fear of lack of money, stemming from their own life experiences. If that fear was not resolved by the time you came into the picture, chances are you inherited it. Meanwhile, you may have no actual experience of lacking money, so being fearful doesn’t make sense, and it may even block you from doing certain things you want to do. Of course your parents were only trying to protect you, and that most of the errors in judgment they made were made with the best intentions. Now may be the time to release this fear symbolically.
Obviously you cannot resolve someone else’s fear for them, but you can decide to let go of it on your own behalf. Whether your parents are still alive or not, I believe it is best to do this in a symbolic way, using visualisation. One simple visualisation I use, is to imagine you are sitting in a huge comfy chair, and in front of you is a blank wall. On that wall you will write the name of the fear in great big letters. Now, as you think about releasing this fear, and how you will feel after it has been released, begin to wipe away each letter of the fear one by one. As you do that and simultaneously think about releasing the fear, that fear is dissolved, for good. Then you can sit back in your comfy chair and be free of that fear. The more we do this deep inner work with our fears, the better we will be able to parent our own children without burdening them with fears that don’t belong to them. Some of us will do as much of this work as we can before we become parents, while others will be working on this even as our children become adults. Some of us will not begin this work until they retire. Whenever we undertake it, the effects will be felt, because once we break our ties to the fears of the past, our children’s ties to those fears are greatly weakened, so it’s important to remember that it’s never too late.
Allowing yourself to release your fears is one step in the right direction to lessening the burden on yourself, and will help you to live a more balanced life. Ask yourself this – Why am I living a life with fears that take up so much of my energy? Why don’t I release some of these fears so that I can begin to live my life in my own way? Notice how good you feel after you have released some of those inherited fears.
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The elation that we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a big breakthrough can sometimes be met with a period of downtime afterward. During this period of transition, we may feel unsure and not know where to turn next. I know that during this period of downtime, we can begin to wonder what our life is about, what our purpose is. These feelings are very common and we all feel them from time to time. Often, we feel best when we are working on a project or vigorously pursuing a goal. But there is nothing inherently wrong with spending a day, a week or even a month, simply existing and not having a plan. Just being. I know that I have found sometimes the quiet lull between ideas, projects, and goals can make life appear empty. I know there are some people who, after accomplishing one objective, want to move immediately on to the next.
However, we are all different. When you find that your next step is unclear, it is quite natural to feel frustrated, or disconnected or even a mild depression. To help calm what can be distressing thoughts, learn to accept that you will continue to grow as an individual whether you are striving for a specific objective or not. Just be and use all the time you need to think about what you have recently gone through and leisurely contemplate what you wish to do next.
You may also find that in simply being and going through the motions of everyday life, you reconnect with your priorities in a very organic, unforced way. I have found that this transition time is different all the time. It can be a period of reflection or a period of adjustment where new values based on recent changes can be integrated. Just because you have temporarily lost sight of a final destination, doesn’t mean you should assume that you have lost your drive. Where you are going next will become apparent at the right time for you.
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Everyone has their own internal filtering process to help us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Often that choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Although sometimes the choice is made based on our perceived expectations of the other person.
I believe that my best chance of getting what I need is to communicate by converting my inner voice to my outside voice.
This may seem unnecessary sometimes, especially when I think the other person has the same information I am working with, but I have to remember they also have their own inner voice, evaluating what they hear in light of their own issues and needs. With so much to consider and sift through, I think I am truly better off if I communicate precisely. Not only does doing this minimise the chance for misinterpretation, but voicing my thoughts is an act of creation. I convert thought and imagination to sound, releasing it from my mind into the outside world. This carries energy and intention with it, making my thoughts, wishes and even dreams come true.
When we have the courage to speak our minds and use our voice to state what we really want, we take a bold step in making that happen. By removing fear of what others may think and expectation of what others should understand, we free ourselves and our thoughts and let loose our desires into the world.
Next time you become aware that you have a choice about how to communicate, you can choose to use your outside voice and watch its creative power at work.
Do you have experience of holding onto your inner voice and then regretting it? Do you have a story to tell about letting it all out? I would love to hear from you.
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I was thinking today about where a ‘safe’ place to be is for me. I am not talking about a physical place, but somewhere in my mind I can go to relax, think, mentally re-charge and just be. A place where my emotions are calm and all the negative stuff in the world is banished and there are no energy draining people to affect my life. And it came to me, my own parallel universe. I can create this in my imagination and build a picture that is so vivid and inviting for me.
I am coming to the conclusion that my parallel universe will be a tranquil island with silver sands surrounded by blue, clear water. In the water dolphins are playing. The temperature will be ideal for me, the grass lush and green. There is a waterfall making a pleasant whooshing noise and there are brightly coloured birds fluttering around and playing with the butterflies and dragonflies.
That is the basis of my parallel universe and every time I go there I will see if something else needs to be added, or someone depending on what I am thinking about or which problem I am endeavouring to solve. It may be that something needs to be taken away and put back at a later date.
Where is your ‘safe place’? Imagine it, make it as bright and colourful as you can. Add textures, sounds, trees, animals. Visit any time you like and just be.
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You always have a choice but you forget that you have it. Do you remember the energy and enthusiasm you had on the first day of your first job? You consciously chose to do the work you had gladly accepted to do. But then you gradually fell asleep to the choice you made, and the day became “I have to” go to work, instead of “I want to” go to work. You forgot to see all the opportunities which come with work – opportunities like learning, nourishing and being nourished by others, developing new relationships, expanding your personal capacity. Instead you decided it was just something that you had to do to ‘get the money’.
This is why most people are sleep-walking through their lives, and they don’t know it. The solution, choose your work every day, put the energy of love into your relationships…every day, even if you don’t particularly like your job or the people around you. And you’ll be amazed at how your life transforms. When you choose to put love into what you do, the universe will move heaven and hell to let you do what you love.
If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.
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To live a life most people don’t, you must be willing to do what most people won’t.
You can do anything, but not everything – focus.
If you want to make the wrong decisions, ask everyone.
Those who don’t move won’t notice their chains.
It’s okay to live a life most people don’t understand.
If someone could only see your actions and not hear your words, what would they say your priorities are?
You can’t have a new reality with an old mentality.
No risk, no story.
If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.
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We all carry within us the seed of healing. Our choices can affect us more than we realise, and it is because of this that we tend to place responsibility for our wellness in the hands of others. As beneficial as regular visits to a practitioner can be, a chiropractor, massage therapist, we have the power to heal ourselves at will. When we dedicate a day to the pursuit of wellness, we can relax and renew ourselves in a nourishing and comfortable environment. A sincere desire to open ourselves to the highest realities of our physical and spiritual selves is the key to self-healing so that healing energy can flow into us unimpeded.
Your self-healing day should address your vital needs as a whole person while directing healing energy where it is needed most. Solitude is an important part of the process as is the ability to take find a space that is both beautiful and peaceful. Start your healing day by setting the intention that you are dedicating this time to healing yourself. Choose flowers, candlelight, incense, music or in nature to guide your focus toward a more tranquil state. For a more intense session, try listening to music through headphones since tuning out can help you tune in. It is up to you to decide what you need to do to cultivate wellness in your life. For some, it may be time spent in reflection. Others will turn to calming activities that help them remember their purpose, such as journal writing, being in nature, or studying. Your healing may even take a more direct form as you use colour, sound, or crystals to balance and ground yourself.
Ultimately, your nourishing intentions transform what might otherwise be a simple day of rest into a day of healing. Grant yourself permission to relax and savour the stillness. If you attune yourself to the calm around you, worldly distractions will be minimised and the unadulterated flow of your consciousness will reestablish itself in the forefront of your mind. The needs of the body, the heart, and the soul will then be revealed to you, empowering you to tap into the essential healing energy of the universe. The mechanism you use to channel this energy will be dependent on your shifting requirements, so each day of healing you enjoy will be unique. All will replenish you, however, allowing you to recreate yourself in a perfect image of health.
If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.
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When we get caught up in the demands of modern life we tend to forget that happiness doesn’t need to come with stipulations. Happiness isn’t something we must schedule and strive for, a hard-won emotion, which only happens when we have no worries to occupy our thoughts. In reality, overwhelming joy is not the exclusive province of those with unlimited time and no troubles to speak of. Many of the happiest people on earth are also those coping with the most serious challenges. They have learned to make time for those simple yet superb pleasures that can be enjoyed quickly and easily. Cultivating a happy heart takes no more than five minutes. The resultant delight will be neither complex nor complicated, but it will be profound and will serve as a reminder that there is always a reason to smile.
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So much that is ecstasy-inducing can be accomplished in five minutes. Alone, we can enjoy an aromatic cup of our favourite tea, take a stroll through the garden we have created, write about the day’s events in a journal, doodle while daydreaming, or breathe deeply while we listen to the silence around us. In the company of a good friend or treasured relative, we can share a few silly jokes, enjoy a waltz around the room, play a fast-paced hand of cards, or reconnect through light-hearted conversation. The key is to first identify what makes us dizzyingly happy. If we do only what we believe should bring us contentment, our five minutes will not be particularly satisfying. When we allow ourselves the freedom to do whatever brings us pleasure, five minutes out of 14 wakeful hours can brighten our lives immeasurably.
It is often when we have the least free time or energy to devote to joy that we need to unwind and enjoy ourselves the most. Making happiness a priority will help you find five minutes every day to indulge in the things that inspire elation within you. Eventually, your happiness breaks will become an established part of your routine. If you start by pursuing activities you already enjoy and then gradually think up new and different ways to fill your daily five minutes of happiness, you will never be without something to smile about.
If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.
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When we have good days, we tend to go over the details later, enjoying them a second and third time as we feel the joy of our good fortune. When we have bad days, we tend to pore over the details of our misfortunes not enjoying them. However, we can reframe those bad days by spending some time before going to bed each night to review the gifts we received that day. Regardless of our evaluation of the day, good, bad, mediocre, we can recall the many blessings that were present. This practice transforms our consciousness as it reveals the fullness at the heart of our lives.
Some days it’s easy to recount the gifts we’ve received; on other days, we have to look harder for the offerings of the day, but once we do, we will find there are always quite a few. There is always something to be grateful for. We can keep it simple and be grateful for the fact that we have a roof over our head, nature, food, and our health. Once we have fully experienced these gifts, we can move outward to the gifts that may require a little more thought such as the gifts of forgiveness, tolerance and acceptance that we may have learned that day. We can also always be grateful for the people in our lives who support us, no matter how bad our day may have been.
Just reviewing the many positive offerings in our lives provides a context for our difficulties that puts them in proper perspective, but we can also make an effort to see the gifts even in adverse circumstances. This can be challenging and may require some practice before it feels authentic, but we have all had the experience of a disappointment or loss leading to a surprising gain. Just remembering this and trusting the give and take of life can help us to remember that sometimes the best gifts of all are the ones we don’t recognise right away. In addition, the lessons we learn in the face of adversity are offerings in their own right, allowing us to count patience, wisdom, and fortitude alongside our other gifts of the day.
If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.
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Welcome to the Power of PIES. I apologize to those coming to this site looking for dessert : ) Instead, the PIES represented here is the powerful combination of Prayer, Imagination, Emotion, and Starting now. Read on, and I promise you will be impacted in a positive way. After all, life is sweet. Enjoy it!