Confidence sapping friends and colleagues

The people with whom you have the most contact and hang around will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence.  We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around. How do they make you feel? Yes, they make you feel the same!  They can put zest into a boring atmosphere and can fill the room with positive, can do vibes that has a knock on effect onto everyone else.

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We also know of those people who could moan for England! They never had the opportunities, they are always putting people down, they don’t like others to be successful, they are jealous and are negative thinkers. These people drain your energy and bring you down to their level, a million miles away from the level that YOU want to be operating on . Family members can be a lot like this as well, but you can always choose your friends, you can’t choose your relatives! So what should you do to make sure that the people who you hang around with empower and support what you stand for rather than bring you down all of the time?

You have the power to choose who you hang around with. Ideally you want happy, vibrant and positive people.  If you have good friends who are negative and yet you still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how you feel – if they are a true friend they will respect you for this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity. The same can be said with family. Your more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. Appreciate where they have come from and as in number 2 above, elicit and select the information that filters through to your brain. Remember, that nothing has meaning in life except the meaning that you give it.

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Being fearful by conditioning

We all have fears.  Some of them are passed down from our parents, and some we learn for ourselves.  Parents can condition us unwittingly and unintentionally. We all learn by example. If we really examine our fears about something, we can notice that the fear we have is not based on our own experience at all. We can trace that fear back to its source.  We may find that one of our parents handed it down to us. For example, your mother or father may have had an intense fear of lack of money, stemming from their own life experiences. If that fear was not resolved by the time you came into the picture, chances are you inherited it. Meanwhile, you may have no actual experience of lacking money, so being fearful doesn’t make sense, and it may even block you from doing certain things you want to do. Of course your parents were only trying to protect you, and that most of the errors in judgment they made were made with the best intentions. Now may be the time to release this fear symbolically.

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Obviously you cannot resolve someone else’s fear for them, but you can decide to let go of it on your own behalf. Whether your parents are still alive or not, I believe it is best to do this in a symbolic way, using visualisation. One simple visualisation I use, is to imagine you are sitting in a huge comfy chair, and in front of you is a blank wall.  On that wall you will write the name of the fear in great big letters. Now, as you think about releasing this fear, and how you will feel after it has been released, begin to wipe away each letter of the fear one by one.  As you do that and simultaneously think about releasing the fear, that fear is dissolved, for good.  Then you can sit back in your comfy chair and be free of that fear. The more we do this deep inner work with our fears, the better we will be able to parent our own children without burdening them with fears that don’t belong to them. Some of us will do as much of this work as we can before we become parents, while others will be working on this even as our children become adults. Some of us will not begin this work until they retire.  Whenever we undertake it, the effects will be felt, because once we break our ties to the fears of the past, our children’s ties to those fears are greatly weakened, so it’s important to remember that it’s never too late.

Allowing yourself to release your fears is one step in the right direction to lessening the burden on yourself, and will help you to live a more balanced life.  Ask yourself this – Why am I living a life with fears that take up so much of my energy?  Why don’t I release some of these fears so that I can begin to live my life in my own way? Notice how good you feel after you have released some of those inherited fears.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you to release those fears so you can create a less fearful life for yourself.

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Give yourself permission to simply ‘be’.

The elation that we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a big breakthrough can sometimes be met with a period of downtime afterward. During this period of transition, we may feel unsure and not know where to turn next. I know that during this period of downtime, we can begin to wonder what our life is about, what our purpose is. These feelings are very common and we all feel them from time to time. Often, we feel best when we are working on a project or vigorously pursuing a goal. But there is nothing inherently wrong with spending a day, a week or even a month, simply existing and not having a plan. Just being. I know that I have found sometimes the quiet lull between ideas, projects, and goals can make life appear empty. I know there are some people who, after accomplishing one objective, want to move immediately on to the next.

 However, we are all different.  When you find that your next step is unclear, it is quite natural to feel frustrated, or disconnected or even a mild depression. To help calm what can be distressing thoughts, learn to accept that you will continue to grow as an individual whether you are striving for a specific objective or not. Just be and use all the time you need to think about what you have recently gone through and leisurely contemplate what you wish to do next.

You may also find that in simply being and going through the motions of everyday life, you reconnect with your priorities in a very organic, unforced way. I have found that this transition time is different all the time. It can be a period of reflection or a period of adjustment where new values based on recent changes can be integrated. Just because you have temporarily lost sight of a final destination, doesn’t mean you should assume that you have lost your drive. Where you are going next will become apparent at the right time for you.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Using my ‘outside’ voice

Everyone has their own internal filtering process to help us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Often that choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Although sometimes the choice is made based on our perceived expectations of the other person.

 I believe that my best chance of getting what I need is to communicate by converting my inner voice to my outside voice.

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This may seem unnecessary sometimes, especially when I think the other person has the same information I am working with, but I have to remember they also have their own inner voice, evaluating what they hear in light of their own issues and needs. With so much to consider and sift through, I think I am truly better off if I communicate precisely.  Not only does doing this minimise the chance for misinterpretation, but voicing my thoughts is an act of creation. I convert thought and imagination to sound, releasing it from my mind into the outside world. This carries energy and intention with it, making my thoughts, wishes and even dreams come true. 

When we have the courage to speak our minds and use our voice to state what we really want, we take a bold step in making that happen. By removing fear of what others may think and expectation of what others should understand, we free ourselves and our thoughts and let loose our desires into the world.

 Next time you become aware that you have a choice about how to communicate, you can choose to use your outside voice and watch its creative power at work.

 Do you have experience of holding onto your inner voice and then regretting it?  Do you have a story to tell about letting it all out? I would love to hear from you.

Want to coach with me? I will help you get unstuck and teach you to be the VIP in your life.

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Where is your ‘Safe Place’

I was thinking today about where a ‘safe’ place to be is for me.  I am not talking about a physical place, but somewhere in my mind I can go to relax, think, mentally re-charge and just be.  A place where my emotions are calm and all the negative stuff in the world is banished and there are no energy draining people to affect my life. And it came to me, my own parallel universe. I can create this in my imagination and build a picture that is so vivid and inviting for me.

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I am coming to the conclusion that my parallel universe will be a tranquil island with silver sands surrounded by blue, clear water.  In the water dolphins are playing.  The temperature will be ideal for me, the grass lush and green. There is a waterfall making a pleasant whooshing noise and there are brightly coloured birds fluttering around and playing with the butterflies and dragonflies.

That is the basis of my parallel universe and every time I go there I will see if something else needs to be added, or someone depending on what I am thinking about or which problem I am endeavouring to solve.  It may be that something needs to be taken away and put back at a later date.

Where is your ‘safe place’? Imagine it, make it as bright and colourful as you can.  Add textures, sounds, trees, animals.  Visit any time you like and just be.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Love your work

You always have a choice but you forget that you have it. Do you remember the energy and enthusiasm you had on the first day of your first job? You consciously chose to do the work you had gladly accepted to do. But then you gradually fell asleep to the choice you made, and the day became “I have to” go to work, instead of “I want to” go to work. You forgot to see all the opportunities which come with work – opportunities like learning, nourishing and being nourished by others, developing new relationships, expanding your personal capacity. Instead you decided it was just something that you had to do to ‘get the money’.

This is why most people are sleep-walking through their lives, and they don’t know it. The solution, choose your work every day, put the energy of love into your relationships…every day, even if you don’t particularly like your job or the people around you. And you’ll be amazed at how your life transforms. When you choose to put love into what you do, the universe will move heaven and hell to let you do what you love.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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I love my job

Speaking with one of my clients yesterday and they realised just how far they had come since working with me.

At first they had no idea how talented they were, how intelligent they were and had absolutely no self confidence.

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Today they are selling their products worldwide and locally, they are planning more projects whilst still working on current objectives at the same time.

I am so proud of my client and how they have progressed over the past year or so. From being almost afraid to speak to having a definite opinion.

Well done xx

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The Power to Adjust

When we’re faced with the need to adjust to someone or a situation, it’s easy to get caught up in negative thoughts. We may feel like we’re compromising only for the other person’s sake, and that can be frustrating. But true adjustment means recognizing that some situations are beyond our control and accepting them as they are. By choosing to adjust, we’re not just making things easier for others—we’re paving the way for our own growth and peace of mind.

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Think of it as encountering a physical obstacle on your path. You can’t remove it, but by finding a way around it, you can continue to move forward and make progress.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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How to measure success

We are taught to measure success by job title and salary.

A better measure of success is good relationships, good health and wellbeing, lifelong learning, free time, making a difference, career, liking what you do and financial health.  

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If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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Sentences to live in your head rent free

Fear doesn’t stop death, it stops life.

If it costs you your peace, it is too expensive.

People only see the decisions you made, not the choices you had.

Never take criticism from somone you wouldn’t take advice from.

The magic you are looking for is in the work you are avoiding.

Ships are safe in the harbour, but that’s not what they’re built for.

Ambition without action turns into anxiety.

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To live a life most people don’t, you must be willing to do what most people won’t.

You can do anything, but not everything – focus.

If you want to make the wrong decisions, ask everyone.

Those who don’t move won’t notice their chains.

It’s okay to live a life most people don’t understand.

If someone could only see your actions and not hear your words, what would they say your priorities are?

You can’t have a new reality with an old mentality.

No risk, no story.

If this has resonated with you get in touch today. Through personalised guidance, I will help you develop a positive mindset and create lasting changes in your life. What are you not happy with in your life? What are you happy with in your life? Find out how to change some of your habits for a better life.

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