I was considering why it is that friends come into our lives and some of them go out of our lives again.
There are many reasons but for me I think that some people fall away because of the changes I have made to myself. I have learned so much about myself that I was unaware of. For instance I have stuffed emotions and feelings down because I was conditioned not to show emotion or share feelings.
When I was in a toxic relationship I had very few friends, and those I did have were not that close. I wasn’t allowed to get close to anybody. Getting divorced and learning to live my life as me has been a steep learning curve.
I have learned how to express my feelings, get close to people and keep others at arm’s length. Now that I am able to express emotions and share my feelings other people may find this unacceptable to them. And that is okay. What I am comfortable with is not always comfortable for everyone else. And that may be why some friends have moved away.
The friends I have currently are wonderful. Some live nearby, some live on different continents, but I am grateful to them all for their friendship and support. I do my best to support all my friends, it may be in a big way or in a small way.
I am grateful for all the friends I have had, still have and those I have yet to meet for their contributions to my life.
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What a lovely post on friendships Maggie. I’ve got some wonderful friends who have stood by me through thick and thin. And there are other friends who I have known quite well and then lost contact with but I do think sometimes there are ‘seasons’ of situations or relationships which run their course.
It is a great thig to spread out your wings like you did last year to create something in your life that changes a lot of things. Relationships are always precious!!
Friends seem to come and go for different reasons in our life. Sometimes when we make change, they are uncomfortable with the new you. Sounds like you appreciate the people in your life at every stage. Take care.
Great article. True friends come and go and at the same time always stay in your heart forever.
So often when we make changes, others don’t know how to relate to us. All we can do is say thank you for the friendship and move on in a new direction. Great post Maggie!
Over the years, I’ve realized that there are friends who are in our lives for a “longer” reason, and others who are just supposed to cross paths with us. We’re (hopefully!) all growing and changing throughout our lives, so those around us may be growing in the same direction–at the same speed–or not!
I’m with you Sharron, We change and grow ,if we are lucky and the people in our lives doesn’t always grow with us!
Great post Maggie. Friends are in our lives for seasons of it.
I agree, Maggie. As you grow sometimes those around us don’t grow with us. We walk together for awhile and part ways. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!