Give yourself permission to simply be

The elation that we feel when we have learned an important lesson, achieved a goal, or had a big breakthrough can sometimes be met with a period of downtime afterward. During this period of transition, we may feel unsure and not know where to turn next.

Many people, during this period of downtime, begin to wonder what their life is about, what their purpose is. These feelings are common and strike everyone from time to time. Interestingly, we feel best when we are working on a project or vigorously pursuing a goal. But there is nothing inherently wrong with spending a day, a week or even a month, simply existing and not having a plan. Just being.

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The quiet lull into we which we fall between ideas, projects, and goals can sometimes make life appear empty. Some people after accomplishing one objective, want to move immediately on to the next. However, we all differ.  When your next step is unclear, it is quite natural to feel frustrated, or disconnected or even a mild depression. Some may even perceive their lack of forward momentum as an indicator of imminent stagnation.

To help calm what can be distressing thoughts, learn to accept that you will continue to grow as an individual whether you are striving for a specific objective or not. Just be and use the time you need to think about what you have recently gone through and leisurely contemplate what you wish to do next.  You may also find that in simply being and going through the motions of everyday life, you reconnect with your priorities in a very organic, unforced way. Fall back on your innate thinking, listen to your intuition.

The transitional pause can take many forms. For some, it can be a period of reflection that helps them understand how their life has unfolded. For others, it can be a period of adjustment, where new values based on recent changes are integrated into daily life.

Just because you’re not headed swiftly to a final destination, doesn’t mean you should assume that you have lost your drive. The stage between journeys can become a wonderful period of relaxation that prepares you for the future that will soon be revealed to you.

If this has resonated with you in any way, please let me know. I would love to hear from you. I offer coaching and mentoring to you – for you to make the changes you want to in your life. Build your confidence in your abilities.  Read my clients’ testimonials here. To help you to have more fun, more freedom and less stress. That is it. There is no catch. I believe in you.

Maggie Currie


Professional Transformational Coach, Consultant




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