My clients often tell me that one of the added benefits of having coaching with me, that they hadn’t considered before they started, is that their coaching sessions can often be the only time in their busy week that they feel able to step back and truly focus 100% on themselves. Be honest, how often could you say that you allow yourself to do just that?
A lot of the time we get so busy ‘doing’ that we forget about ‘being’.
This was a revelation of sorts for me some years back. I had something fantastically inspiring to aim for. I had the focus, I had the drive to work really hard, and I was making good progress. And yet, I ended up feeling ill, stressed and fairly disillusioned. I began to think that if this was what having stretching goals was about, I wasn’t sure I wanted them after all!
Talking through how I felt with a good friend one day, I was brought up short when she said “oh yes, you’ve become a ‘human doing’ instead of a ‘human being'”. I thought about that all the way home.
As I reflected on the previous few months, I could think of very few times when I wasn’t ‘doing’ and even fewer times when I’d consciously decided to take time out and ‘just be’.
How much of your time do you spend ‘doing’ and how much do you spend ‘being’? If you had to divide a circle up with how much time you give over to each, what would it look like? How big would your ‘being’ slice be? Be absolutely honest with yourself.
With our busy lives and time-poor society it can seem nearly impossible to take more time for ourselves, but at what cost do we choose not to? My decision those few years back was to invest more time in myself, and I’m certain that I’m more productive as a result. I get more done in my ‘doing’ time now than I ever did when I was ‘doing’ every waking second of the day. Plus, my ultimate decision was that it couldn’t all be about the doing and the destination or I’d miss the journey altogether.
So as we roll into the next season, what time can you make for yourself to just ‘be’? When can you next set aside an hour or two, a whole day or even more than that, to relax and recharge? Imagine how much better you will feel when you do?
Could you do with some regular time set aside to focus 100% on you and on making your life how you want it?
I have some availability for coaching clients, we just need to fix some dates if and when you want to get started. Get in touch today.
Creedence – Confidence for You
International Confidence Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author