Have you set yourself goals that you think you want to achieve? If so, are they actually achievable? And more importantly are they really necessary?
There is stress around setting goals. You make them mean something about your worth and value and this creates pressure as you strive to achieve them. And if you do achieve them, will there still be something missing?
So, let’s imagine you want to test out how stressed you are.
If you feel you have to make it happen you are putting a huge responsibility on your shoulders. You think you are on your own. You work hard at gaining more knowledge, you work harder and keep a very tight control. You make it all about your personal commitment and discipline. You want to prove yourself to yourself, and to everyone else, or you think you will lose everything.
We force ourselves out of our comfort zones feeling stress and fear all the way along.
On the other hand, you could leave it all up to the Universe. This mean you sit and wait for the conditions of your environment or in your mind to be perfect……… This is very unlikely to happen. So you feel stressed whilst you wait.
Alternatively, and more sensibly you can use your free will and make decisions from your innate wisdom and stay on course when have stressful thinking. It is your thoughts that cause the stress, since stress itself does not exist until we create it.
So relax into what it is you want to achieve, live in the moment. Don’t think about the future as it hasn’t happened yet. Don’t think about what you did in the past, nothing can change that. Do what you feel is right in the moment and your stress levels will reduce and you may even find that you have no need to set goals at all.
If you would like to find out more about living in the moment and reducing your stress levels, get in touch and let’s have a conversation.
Transformational Coach, Consultant
Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING