The absolutely most important relationship you have in your life is with yourself. And this relationship can frequently be the most difficult one to cultivate because you are the only one who is present in every single moment of your life – from the moment you were conceived onwards.
Society places a huge emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, and you may have been conditioned to set aside your own needs in preference for the needs of others.
But, until you really know yourself, how can you choose the right relationship to support your mutual growth toward your highest potential?
By allowing yourself to be comfortable with being alone, you can become the person with whom you want to have a relationship.
I don’t think there has been another time in history when it has been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, whilst living alone. We all have the freedom to support ourselves financially, socially and emotionally without depending on a spouse for survival in any of these areas.
With this freedom comes the opportunity to pursue your own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners and neighbours. Once you’ve satisfied your needs and created your support system, a partner then becomes someone with whom you can share the bounty of all you’ve created, as well as the beauty you’ve discovered within yourself.
I believe we all need to learn to create spaces to be alone within our relationships. If we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we can open ourselves up to forge new paths and discover uncharted territory.
Being willing to not just know ourselves, but to love ourselves, and willing to discover what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves.
Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to explore more fully our most important relationship—the one with our true selves. And no, it isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, I believe it is a good thing.
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Creedence – Confidence for You
International Confidence Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author
Thaanks for this