I know how it feels to have feelings of inadequacy. I feared that I wasn’t good enough, that others didn’t think I was good enough either. I doubted by abilities and whether I actually knew anything at all. Those feelings made my body feel heavy and sluggish, they made my brain all fuggy and hard to get going. I felt totally unmotivated and really had to force myself to keep appointments and to do all the usual everyday things like looking after myself properly. I didn’t want to prepare any meals and therefore wasn’t eating properly. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate… it is really that we have little self belief.
The lack of self belief is something that had become a habit because I was always told that I was average when I was growing up and that I would never amount to anything. And having been told that so many times, I believed it. I believed it for many, many years until I started reading about self-development and coaching. Something clicked for me, and I decided that I probably do more than I originally thought.
I began to take courses in coaching, corporate coaching, NLP, confidence coaching and I discovered that not only did I love this work, I was good at it. No – I was very good at it indeed. And I loved every minute of it and still do. I am passionate about helping other people to develop as themselves and to boost their confidence and self belief.
Now I thought that after achieving all those diplomas, and all the many hours and days of hard work I had done to achieve them, I would get rid of those feelings of being inadequacy. But I was wrong. They all came back again and it was like reliving the same old behaviour patterns again. What could I do?
I trained in emotion based coaching as an addition to my already extensive qualifications and I learned to look at my old unexpressed feelings which were affecting my life and learned to acknowledge them, deal with them and this allowed me to live my life as me in a much more confident way. Working on myself I again had those feelings of inadequacy, but this time found the solutions to make those nasty feelings go away. I made a list of all the things that I do creatively and a list of my innovativity. That took some thinking about but I did it, and it really worked. I am feeling so much more confident now in myself and who I am and what I have to offer to myself, my husband, my friends-in-deed and of course my clients.
Getting good responses from the people I coach whilst they are getting great results makes such a difference to my confidence levels. I know that I am a brilliant coach with a lot to offer my clients and I know that I do a grand job with them.
I take each day as it comes and I boost my confidence by reading my lists of creativity and innovativity, watch the results of my clients and support people in the coaching community and know that I am confident in my abilities and in me. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate…..it is a lack of self belief. It is very common for people going through divorce to lose their self-belief and that is where I can help.
I have some availability for coaching clients, we just need to fix some dates if and when you want to get started. Get in touch today.