A lot of people carry around with them a huge amount of “baggage” or “clutter” in their minds. When I say this I mean that they are still holding onto things that they say they ‘should’ do, but they really don’t need to.
There are many ‘coulds’ and ‘shoulds’ in your life that hold you back – you want to let go, but for some reason you don’t.
This is very common in several areas of life, in particular going through or after divorce. You are not alone, I am guilty of doing it myself.
Are you carrying around with you a lot of emotional attention that you could be doing without rather than focusing on something more productive instead?
If you are, I bet it is having a negative influence on your confidence and self esteem.
Take a look at your life, be honest with yourself and begin to get rid of this baggage, bit by bit, by asking yourself some questions and by completing the following exercise. In effect, what you are doing is making certain tasks “complete”, drawing a line under them and moving on.
Answer the following questions honestly. You can do it all in one go or do it over a period of days. By writing your answers down they become more real and the changes more attainable.
Get to it and over a short space of time you will notice your confidence soar!
- Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with at home
- Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with at work
- Make a list of 10 things that you are putting up with in any other areas of your life
Make an action plan to make changes in your behaviour or communicate to the person involved in these things that you have been putting up with how you would like them to change their behaviour. Take action!
- Make a list of things that are unresolved/unfinished in your life.
Make an action plan of how you are going to make some changes to reduce this number! Take action!
- Do you need to clear the air with anyone? If so, just do it! Life is too short!
- Did you ever say that you were going to call someone or keep in touch with someone yet have done nothing about it? If yes, call them or send an email to them today
Let go of as many coulds, woulds, shoulds, maybes, oughts as you can. Take action!
By completing these exercises you will be able to focus more on the here, the now and the future. You will now be able to let go of some of the things that have been taking up your valuable attention – those things that knock your self esteem. And you will definitely notice the results in the way you are more confident and more aware of what you will tolerate in your life.
Many of my clients find simple strategies to recognise their daily achievements and spur themselves on to greater success! What are yours going to be?
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