Saying Yes, Saying No

If you were to hover above your daily life and view all the things that make it up, at what you do with each minute of your 24 hours, each and every day, at all the people and things that are part of it. How much of it would you feel you had actually chosen ?

The truth is you chose all of it, on some level or another. And even if there are some things you don’t feel like you chose, you certainly chose to allow them to continue. So, if you have all this choice, how come you reach a point from time to time where life seems incredibly cluttered and pressured? Maybe you have lost sight of what you’re saying yes to and no to…and why you are saying yes or no.

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If you’ve ever listened to yourself say yes when you really wanted to say no, you’ll know how bad that feels. For some people, each day is like that. So what does that leave them with? Lots of what they don’t want filling their time and little or no time for what they do want to fill their time! My guess is that we all have been in this situation to a greater or lesser extent. Perhaps we have over-committed ourselves to work or other areas, tried to fit too much into our time, attempted to do lots of things at once, finding ourselves doing things that don’t energise us and perhaps, in some cases, draining us. So what do we do about it? Have a spring-clean!

The secret to spring-cleaning your life is in the use of those simple words ‘yes’ and ‘no’. Are there situations, people or commitments in your life that you regularly say yes to, that you’d love to be able to say no to? How much time could you free up by saying no to things that don’t give you anything and that you don’t enjoy? What could you do with that time instead? By consciously looking at what we don’t want to be doing with our time, we can clear out the clutter and make space for a better quality of life. We open up our time for the things we enjoy, clearing the way for new opportunities to have fun and to grow. How refreshing will that be!

What will YOU say yes and no to? If this has struck a chord with you, take action now and answer these questions one at a time, making notes as a reminder:

What do you currently spend your time on that you’d like to be able to say no to?
By saying no to those things, what will that free up your time for?
If you were to put yourself first, what commitments, situations and people would you say no to?
What will you say yes to instead?

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