We all make mistakes from time to time, it is human nature. As we go through life we can take the opportunity to learn from any mistakes and improve ourselves. Being criticised for making a mistake or for someone’s perception of your actions is ok if it is constructive. The other type of criticism is destructive and is usually done by somebody attacking your character.
Bear in mind that criticism aimed at you may not make any sense at the time. Generally speaking there is usually a bit of truth in criticism, even when it appears to be given out of spite and/or bitterness. It may be the case that a slight on your character is a reflection of how another person sees you at that point in time. Take a step back and try to see things from their point of view. Maybe ask a trusted friend or relative for their honest opinion. Use criticism wisely and as a learning experience, whether it is constructive or destructive.
Also remember that people who criticise a lot and make remarks to be hurtful are the ones that need the help, not you. Criticism is an easy form of ego defence. Critical people tend to be easily insulted and especially in need of ego defence. Some people use criticism as a form of bullying to make you feel inferior and boost their opinion of themselves.
Anybody can criticise, condemn and complain, but it takes character and self-control to be understanding of people’s motives and to be forgiving of their actions.
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