One of the most well known confidence building exercises is to list your own strengths and natural abilities. Be totally honest with yourself, blow your own trumpet where it needs to be blown, write down as many as you can.  By looking at the list you have created you will see how much talent you have, and it will make you say “Wow, I really am good!”

Another great way of building your confidence and getting in touch with how great you really are is to ask your friends,  your colleagues, your family and other people who know you for feedback on your strengths and natural abilities.

As a practical exercise list 5 people who you know and trust.  Make sure they are from different areas of your life.

List them:

• A family member
• A friend
• A work colleague
• An associate
• A social contact

You might at this stage be feeling a little nervous about asking these people for feedback, and that is quite natural.  Don’t worry though, because you will be only asking for your strengths.

Just go for it!

So, how do you go about it? Well, below are some questions that I’d like you to ask to each person on your list.

I recommend that you explain the context of the exercise however you feel is best, so they can understand why you are asking, and then email them the questions so they can email their feedback to you.

1. What do you perceive to be my greatest strengths?
2. What do you like most about me?
3. What do you value most about me?
4. What three words sum up the positive points about me?
5. If you needed help with something, what would you call me to help you with?

They will feel honoured that you have asked them and the feedback that you will receive will truly make you feel fabulous and full of confidence. Rightly or wrongly, we live in a society where other peoples’ opinions affect our self esteem and confidence. By completing this exercise you will get some really good insight into some of your strengths.

Often you receive valuable information on the strengths that you didn’t even know you had!

After you have received all of the feedback you can reflect on what has been written or said:

• How do you feel about it?
• Are there any surprises?
• Do you feel confident about your abilities?
• How can you use this information going forward?
• How can you maximise your strengths?

If all people you have asked think you have these strengths, so do a lot of other people as well – how does that make you feel?

• What are the key insights you have learned?
• What will you do now that is different from what you have done before?

You really are great, and I know you can be even greater with my help. Get intouch today and we can have a free informal chat on how I can help you.

Maggie Currie