How you see yourself probably begins with you assessing yourself against a combination of the qualities and attributes of many people that you most admire. Your ‘self-ideal’ is a description of the person you would very much like to be if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to.
It is interesting that with most people, everything they do on a day-to-day basis is affected by them comparing their activities with their view of their ideal qualities and then striving to behave consistently with them.
I have noticed that successful people are very clear about being excellent in every part of their lives, whilst unsuccessful people generally have fuzzy ideals.
When you set higher and more challenging goals, your self-ideal will change. When you set goals for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live, your self-ideal rises and becomes a greater guiding and motivating force in your life.
Improvements in your self-ideal begin in your imagination where you are safe, there are no limits with the exception of the ones that you accept.
Think about the following:
- What is your vision of the very best person you want to be?
- How would you behave each day if you were already that person? Make a picture in your mind of how you look and stand, how you appear to other people? What do you hear? What do you see? What are you wearing? What is around you? Who is around you? Make the picture as bright and colourful as you can. Add sounds, smells, colours, textures.
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.
Firstly, dream big dreams. Set big, exciting, challenging goals or targets for yourself. Allow yourself to imagine your wonderful life ahead.
Secondly, think about how you will act when you are living your wonderful life. Begin acting like you have achieved this goal. You’ll immediately notice a difference in your behaviour, you will notice a change in your body language. Others will notice too. We become what we think.
If you are not sure where to begin get in touch with me today and we can have a chat about how I can help you.
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Founder of MAGGIE CURRIE COACHING